After 17 miscarriages, this Indian origin woman was told that she’d never be able to give birth again, welcomes 4 babies in 9 months.
Lytina Kaur was given the heartbreaking news while receiving a bone marrow transplant at just 18 years old after being diagnosed with acute myeloid leukaemia, an aggressive cancer of the white blood cells, a year earlier.
However, 13 years and 17 miscarriages later, Kaur is now 32 years old and a proud mother of four daughters all born over a nine-month period.
“I was still quite young when I was told I couldn’t have children. I didn’t think about it too much at the time and thought I’d worry about it when I crossed the bridge. However, when I got married at 23, it was heart-breaking,” she told ‘Nottingham Post’.
After her wedding in 2007, Lytina, who is from the East Midlands region of England, decided to try and have a family of her own. Kaur suffered from 17 miscarriages in just five years, the first of which happened in 2010 after she conceived twins. “I was having twin boys. I had 17 miscarriages in total and they were all hard but that one was the most difficult because it was my first and I had been carrying them for a long time.”
Between 2010 and 2012, she suffered as many as nine miscarriages before undergoing one free cycle of IVF on the UK’s state-funded National Health Service (NHS) a year later, which was unsuccessful.
She then decided to go for adoption, but was told there were no suitable Asian children available. As a result of this, her and her husband started looking at surrogacy.
Between 2013 and 2015, a hospital in India made six attempts to implant an embryo into a surrogate – but each ended in miscarriage and the couple gave up.
However, she eventually became pregnant in February 2015 and gave birth to her first daughter, Kiran in September 2015 via a planned C-section at the Queen’s Medical Centre.
She said, “It was quite a shock. My husband and I were waiting for a miscarriage. We just presumed it was going to happen. Every day was so hard. I didn’t go places and I didn’t drive because I didn’t want to add any unnecessary stress. It was horrific. I didn’t tell my family. I didn’t tell anyone. I didn’t want people to get excited for a miscarriage to happen again. Luckily you couldn’t tell I was pregnant.”
In November 2015, twin babies Kajal and Kavita were born in India after the hospital had transferred the last four embryos to a surrogate as a goodwill gesture.
While she was in India she discovered she had fallen pregnant naturally again.
She said, “My second pregnancy happened very quickly. I didn’t know I was pregnant. I had Kiran and the doctors told me it probably wouldn’t happen again and I must’ve just had a strong egg. Within six weeks I had two other girls as I went to pick up Kajal and Kavita from India so it was very busy. I didn’t have time to think. It was quite overwhelming. I got to India and I realised I hadn’t had a period for a while but I didn’t really think anything of it. Then I found out I was 13 weeks pregnant.”
In June last year, Kaur gave birth to Kiyara at the Queen’s Medical Centre, Nottingham. She was born premature, 28 weeks and spent nine weeks on the neonatal ward before she was able to return home. She doesn’t have any health complications.
The delighted mum said, “In the end, we were really lucky. I was just enjoying my life and suddenly, within nine months, it turned crazy. I do miss being able to go out whenever I want to but I love spending time with my kids and I need to make the most because they’ll be in school in a few years’ time.”
She said that they go through a box of 82 nappies every five to six days, and that she has stopped counting the amount of baby formula and food she uses.
She added, “I’m really lucky because the girls have always been good sleepers. There is a struggle getting them all to bed but once they are asleep they don’t wake up until about 7.30am or 8am.”